Good evening ma,
I recently became a reader of LS. I have learnt so much from your platform. I just want to appreciate you for the work that you are doing. I also want to ask for your advice on the challenge that I am facing. My marriage is young,just going to be 3 years in October.
My marriage is facing serious financial challenges and my husband is not making things easier for us. 4 months to our wedding,my husband lost his job. It was very painful,he wanted to postpone our wedding but I encouraged him that we should still go ahead,we will manage on my earnings. I also have a consumable business where I have a lady managing it.
Due to the fact that my husband did not have a job,he started going to the shop to supervise. At first,it was a good idea cos it means he will monitor what the woman is doing. But before long,I started hearing rumors that my husband was sleeping with this woman. I asked him and he got angry for asking. Then I got pregnant,my pregnancy was a difficult one,I had to quit my job.
That means we only had the shop to depend on. I encouraged my husband to get a job but he always say he is looking for job but nothing has come up. When I send him job adverts,he will say he is not interested in those kinds of job. All I see is that he does not want to work,he just goes occasionally to the shop.
After I had my baby,I had to fire the lady who was managing my business. The business was not doing well. She was busy sleeping with my husband not to concentrate on the business. I decided to manage the business myself until I got a job. Only for one day,the husband of one of my sales girl came to my shop to fight and destroy things. He found out my husband was sleeping with his wife.
Ma,my business is struggling and I have a husband who is sleeping around. How am I supposed to continue in this type of marriage. My family has come into the matter and asked me to leave the marriage. He does not support me financially. I feed and provide for the family and yet he keeps cheating on me.
I am very sad,I cry most times,now I am just fed up. My son is going to be 2 years and I don’t even want to have a second baby because of the situation of things. He is pressuring me to have another baby but I refused. I am tired and I regret getting married to a man without a job…I need your advice. Is divorce the only way out?
Anonymous LS fan