Please what do you advise? My soon to be bride just found out something about my ex and she is threatening to quit our relationship just for a very flimsy reason.
My ex is a banker. She and I were together for almost 5 years. During that time,she was the one managing my account. I am a business man,by God’s grace,I also run my own company.
This ex of mine was very instrumental to the growth of my business financially. Being in the financial sector,she helped me get funding that would have been very difficult to get. The facilities I got to take my business off the ground came from here.
Naturally,she became my account officer. You know in banking,the accounts you manage determine your promotion and reward in climbing the professional ladder. So,even though both of us broke up two years ago,she begged me to remain my account officer. Which I agreed.
Now,I am in a relationship with this lovely lady. Everything is going fine. We have done our introduction. Until she finds out that my ex is my accounts officer. And then she flips and says why should my ex still be my accounts officer. I tried to explain to her but she wont listen.
I mean,we have been together almost 2 years. That means,I have not been with this ex for 2 years. I have not even seen her for a long time. We only talk on phone. I have never cheated nor flirted with my ex or anyone. Why would my fiancee be so insecure about my ex?
This became an issue and she says she is backing out if I do not remove my ex as my account officer. I think that is childish and insecure and I told her that. She knows I love her but what she is asking me to do is insensitive to another human being.
My fiancee is giving me attitude about this and frankly,she says our wedding plans are on hold until I do what she wants….that is taking it too far and its making me wonder what kind of woman she is…
Before now,me and her have never had any serious misunderstanding….this is our first major one…I have given her no cause to every doubt my love for her but now she says allowing my ex to hold on my my account shows I still care about my ex…that is not true.
Will she be a petty kind of wife in future?…I personally do not like drama…I like peace…and she knows it. Please ,what should I do? Is her behavior normal or is this a red flag for our marriage?
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