Obike was unashamed, giving us gist of how many girls he had slept with, excited about potential girls that would grace his bed, ticking them off on a list, as though he was taking a census count. Obike was the street he-goat.
But I started becoming uncomfortable with this when my wife started telling me so many private things about this couple. She used to tell me that the woman always gist her how the man handles her s*xually.
The woman, an Iranian national, was travelling from Doha to Bali with her husband and child on a Qatar Airways flight on Sunday, India’s Hindustan Times reported Tuesday.
As her husband slept, she used his hand to unlock his fingerprint-protected phone, revealing the alleged affair in all its sordid detail.
“Happy wedding Anniversary to us! May our love grow stronger and inspire all, and may life bless us with all the gifts.
#Pls permit me to spoil this babe a little catch you at the other side #L I C K @iam_mrse”
At church, I noticed that he watched me a lot. I admit that I enjoyed the attention, the affirmative words, and the “high” I got with my schoolgirl crush. If someone had asked me if I was having an affair, however, I would have denied it. After all, there were no private lunches, there was no secret rendezvous, and there was no physical touch except for a public hug now and then or a slight touch of the hand. Everybody in our church hugged anyway so no one was the wiser … or so I thought.
But if that is the pressure people put on me a short time after getting married, I can understand why rapper Eve, married for three years to British millionaire Maximillion Cooper, is so irritated about inquiries into her age and why she hasn’t “given” her husband a child. She discussed this issue while guest co-hosting The Talk this week.
But there were also times when something got in the way of that closeness, times when s*x became lonely and isolating. There were times when instead of bonding me close to him, s*x actually made me feel more distant from my husband. When I reflected on what made those times different from the others, I realized that when s*x was lonely it was because I was not being present with my husband. Instead, I was thinking of s*xual fantasies that involved other people or porn scenes I had watched online. While I was bodily present with my husband, inside I retreated into my own fantasyland. I was using his body to feel good, but my mind and heart were elsewhere.
“I just ended a relationship, a fourteen-year relationship, at my age. You know why? Because after 14 years, I finally realize ‘He don’t love me the way I want to be loved.’ I just don’t want to be loved like this. See, I don’t get to tell people how to love me. I get to see how they love and then choose if I want to participate. So for 14 years, I was hoping, ‘Ok, he’s going to get it. He’s going to get it. He’s going to get it.’ And then I said, ‘You know what, he ain’t getting it.’ And it’s ok. I don’t choose to participate in the way he loves. I got a bunch of degrees and it took me 14 years to get that. Thank God I couldn’t get pregnant.”
It’s not unusual for children, after, perhaps, they have lost one parent, or the 2 parents have separated, to want the parent(s) to remain alone. No one wants to feel like their father or mother have been replaced.
That’s why this story is especially warming.
A Twitter user @TracyEO posted a tweet about searching for a female companion for her father.
Am doing all to raise my gals to be responsible as they say children raise by women are always spoils children. I try to me with the basic needs of my kids and also ensure am their best friend. My first daughter is growing rapidly into a very beautiful gal cos I see how young guyz, men stare at her, even lots of her mate are always flocking around her.
My heart jumps for joy. This very wise couple hasn't waited until a crisis has hit. No one is flirting with a coworker. Vicious, repetitive arguments aren't heard late at night. Or perhaps worse, steely silence doesn't define the week, where the only words spoken have been about the details of soccer practice.
A South African lady and Twitter user, @Rhuuu, took to the platform to narrate how her aunt’s husband faked a non-existing career for 14 years.
According to her, the man wakes up everyday, wears a suit and goes to his other wife’s house. Here are her tweets;
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