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On The Subject Matter: Marrying Early Versus Marrying Late!

On marrying early or marrying late…
There’s no late comer in marriage…
It’s true that your body is going thru a physiological cycle and some changes are natural sort of… But don’t go into marriage because your biological clock is ticking…
If you must marry… Marry your friend, your play mate… The one with whom you’re “naked and not ashamed”…
So much as procreation is one of the gifts of marriage… Marriage is not first for procreation… The basic essence of marriage is companionship and fellowship… Children will come and go but the bed rock should ever be aflame…  Let not the fire go out on that altar…
If it’s cos of children you’re gunning for marriage, just go and adopt a child or with consent have a surrogate… _You don’t need marriage to have children_
If it’s cos of s*x, please don’t marry… With consent get someone whose goal is just s*x too…
If it’s cos of money or whatever mundane thing… Get a job… Work on a career… Build a business… You do not need marriage…
If it’s just cos of ministry… Please do not marry, just face your ministry and be married to it… Or you find someone who also just want you for ministry…
If it’s cos of family, culture, people or traditions… Please do not marry… Relocate if you have to… Move away from your pressure point if you can… And for those you can confront, tell them to pray about it if it bothers them but to steer clear of bothering you with it, else you severe the relationship with them…
Please for no selfish reason or reasons, should you yoke yourself with a vow to another soul in the name of marriage…
The basic reason for making two one flesh is for companionship and fellowship… If your relationship ain’t achieving this basic purpose, you might need to step back and do some assessment…
You both should be spiritual channels for each other… It’s a symbiotic relationship not parasitic relationship…
So for ladies in their late 20s, early/mid/late 30s…. Let no one make you think of yourself as disadvantaged… No, you’re not… Let no one make you feel you’re late… No, you’re not… Do not lower your values all because you want to be seen with a guy or be a Mrs… It would not be worth it… When it’s your time, it will feel right… You’ll know it…
This is not to say, you’re all perfect… We all are work in progress… So please work on yourself, body mind and soul… Eat right, exercise, dress appropriately, be radiant and alive… Be happy… Keep working at being the best version of you… Validate yourself… Treat yourself nice… Just have fun… Love yourself… Spoil yourself… You don’t need another to complete you… You are complete!!!
You only need someone who  fits to complement you with less friction…
Always be grateful for your experiences whatever emotions they evoke… Only the living worry about achieving or attaining… Some women will be alive today, if they hadn’t run off into marriage…
Wait it out… Enjoy your own company… Stop feeling incomplete… Be whole…
When it’s time, nothing can stand in the way except you… So work on you and be open minded… If you know Jesus and you understand the finished work… Then stop thinking like a slave… Nothing can hold you down except your mind agrees to be held down… Remember your position in Him… And remember you are complete in Him…
Don’t try to hold on to something or someone that has to go… Whatever is yours is gonna stay… So be open minded…
Please don’t give in to pressure… Wait until it feels right from deep within and you feel total peace of mind…
Know what you want and what fits into your assignment, that’s your guide… And you can’t be clear on these until you’ve discovered yourself and your path… So please take your time…
Listen to the dream of that fellow before you get serious… If it doesn’t fit, don’t force it… You can wait it out… Work on it… Or look else where… Depends on what potentials you see or the absence of it…
Please don’t just settle… When you decide to settle, do it for yourself and for your joy… God in His infinite Love and Mercy, will steer us into our best for the rest of our lives…
Single or double or multiple… BE HAPPY and BE GRATEFUL…
SHALOM

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