Please I need your advise. I have a baby daddy. I got pregnant for him during a short fling. He never promised me marriage but I prayed and decided to keep my baby. That is one of the best decisions I ever made in my life. I have a 4 years old boy.
Ever since I met my baby daddy,he always messes up my chances of meeting a new guy. He would be so nice to me sometimes dream that things can work out between us. But then,he would say he has a girlfriend or fiancee ,etc.
I had to make up my mind and tell him to stop giving me mixed messages. But soon as a new guy shows up in my life,he starts to come around and professing his love and this confuses me and even scares always other guys.
My father had to call him and warn him to back off. I had enough. God brought me a good man. This man,I told him everything about me and my baby daddy. He decided to love me all the same. Everything is going well for almost 7 months until my BD came again.
This time,sent a nude picture of me to my boyfriend. I sent to him some nude pics during one of my moment of weakness with him. This seriously put off my boyfriend cos my BD told him he even has videos which is even a lie. I went to his place an threatened him. He said no man will have me if not him.
I do not know what this man wants from me. He claims to be in a relationship. Apparently with another baby mama. But he still wants me. I will not lie,he makes me weak. I do not know whether its love or obsession cos I try my best to resist him and when he tells me all the sweet things I keep falling for him.
He is also a good father to our son. My son loves his dad and wants us to be a family together.
Is this a curse…he does not want to marry me but he would not leave me. Right now,I know he is sleeping with me and his other baby mama but I am helpless. I want to leave. My father is angry with me. I want to let him go. What do I do?
Some days I feel so depressed and I do not know what to do. I am now 37 years old.. I want to be married.My BD provides occasionally for us I want more than material stuff. Someone suggested I use jazz so he can marry me. Maybe then he can pick me?
I thought of relocating but I have a very good job here and it took me years to get to this level of my career…where will I go that I can find a job like mine? Even if I go,he will follow me cos he said he will never let his son out of his sight.
I truly need mature advice from people who understand my unique predicaments. No insults please.