I need your advice. My wife is a selfish woman and its making me have regrets over marrying her. Every time she hides money away from me. Yes,she earns more than me. When we were dating,she always feel free with me knowing about her finances etc.
There was even a time I was holding her ATM card and she made me feel that she was an open book. However,all that changed when we got married. She began to hide details of her financials.
Thank God,I have my own money. I am into business but as an entrepreneur, things can get a little tough so I rely on her to handle some key bills cos she earns very well on her job. The only problem is that,when I ask her for money to assist me on a personal project,she will say she does not have the money.
But I will see her buying expensive jewelries and unnecessary stuff. I get annoyed at her selfishness but I maintain my cool. Its her money,let her do what she likes. What is now making me see her as a dangerously selfish woman is this:
My car is giving me serious problems. You know how difficult it is to move around Lagos without a car. Especially as I am managing my own business so I need to be mobile. I have spent so much money fixing the car yet it keeps breaking down.
The reality is that the car is old and needs to be replaced but I cannot afford a car on my own. I asked my wife to support me with N2M to get a new car and she refused. She actually suggested I get a loan from the bank.
As a business man,getting a loan from the bank to buy a car is not the best option because of interest rates that will affect my cash flow seriously. I begged and begged her. She swore that she did not have money.
Only for her to tell me that she wants to do tummy tuck surgery!…First of all, I am not complaining about how she looks after 3 children. But she is so obsessed about her looks. So she has money to do surgery to fix her body. The surgery will cost her almost N1.9M.
I told her she does not need the surgery. She said its her body and her money. Now,I feel resentment towards her. I cannot help it. How can a woman I love and she claims to love me not want to support my business by helping me buy a car that I will use? Instead,she wants to do plastic surgery…
Tell me,if this is not selfishness,I don’t know what to do. I have told her that if she does the surgery,then I will leave the marriage for her. Since looking good is more important to her than my happiness in business. Its ok.
Sometimes,I feel she is even cheating with this her great obsession with her looks or even maybe her friends are influencing her. Must she look like all these Instagram girls? I find this disturbing….
Please advise her and advise me. I am greatly disappointed.
From T. K