Please I need your advice. I am newly married. Well,not so newly. My marriage is 9 months plus. I love my wife and I know she loves me but we have an issue and I feel like we need to talk to someone about it but she does not believe in bringing third party into our marital issues. In fact we agreed before we got married that we will never allow another person get involved when we have issues.
We have an issue and we do not seem to be able to resolve it by ourselves. I don’t even want her to know I am writing to you so please hide my identity. Since we got married,my wife and I have been quarreling about sx. The problem is,I think she is selfish when it comes to sx. Anytime I want to have s*x with her,she will always complain that she is tired.
Fine,she works and so do I. She works in Ikoyi,I work in Lekki. So most times we both are tired after traffic at the end of the day. I am a very considerate man. I do not force her when she says she is tired. But after resting,like say early in the morning,if I make advances,she will still say she is tired. And this really frustrates me.
The only time she is not tired and wants sx is when she is on her ovulation period. Ah,when she is on,she cannot wait for me to get home. Even if I am tired,I must oblige her. I feel she is selfish. She just wants a baby. Not me. What about me? Why does she not care about my sxual needs?
I know we have been trying for a baby but even me,I am not excited cos even now that the baby is not yet here,my wife does not have time for me,imagine when the baby now comes. So am I only good enough for baby making? I want to make love to my wife. I want to have fun and exciting s*x but once she sees that I am in the mood,she starts telling me of how stressful her day,of course,sending me signals that she is not in the mood.
My wife does not seem to appreciate that I have needs so I have decided to ‘lock up’. Anytime she is ready,me too,I will be ‘tired’. Now,she feels how I feel. Instead of her to learn and adjust,she will start crying when I reject her advances. Last night,she cried and said I do not care that she is not pregnant yet. That I want my family to come and trouble her for not getting pregnant,nine months after wedding.
This woman eh. I seriously do not understand her. Why has everything got to be her way? And if its not her way,I am the bad guy? I need advice o. Someone has to talk sense into her. Marriage is not all about sx I know but I know that sx is an important aspect of marriage. Until my wife decides to consider my needs,I pretty much will continue to lock up. If she likes,let her cry a river.
Abi what I am doing is that bad? I am only trying to get her attention. She should stop the emotional blackmail. Its 50/50 or 100/100….I cannot do a one sided thing. Please advice me if you think I am handing this the wrong way. If so,what else should I do?
From Anonymous LS Telegram Fan