Good Morning ma,
I need your advise. Hide my identity. My husband and I live in a two bedroom apartment. We are just starting our lives ,just married for almost 2 years. I had my baby 2 months ago and my mom came to help me.
Having my mother around is a huge blessing because me and my husband both work on the island. Its not easy working in Lagos with a small baby. So,having my mother around is a blessing especially because I had a CS.
We are managing everything well until my husband told me that his elder brother who is in Canada is coming to Nigeria and will be staying for like 3 months so my mother has to leave cos its his elder brother and he cannot share a room with my mother.
First,I thought he was joking cos that was just a mean thing to say knowing that my mother was only living with us just to help us. I did not think he was being considerate but he was like,do I expect him to tell his brother not to come?
Why cant he tell his brother to find alternative accommodation? That was when he made the comment that threw me off:he said,in their tradition,the husband’s family owns the house more than the wife’s family.
This is the first time I am hearing something as archaic as this and I became furious. So,his family is more important than mine in an apartment we both paid for? I told him that will never happen. Cos of that,my husband has not been speaking with me or my mother.
Jesus Christ…what did I do or where did I go wrong? How can he drive my mother who is helping me? When I asked him what will happen to our baby if my mom leaves,he said we can take the baby to creche. We do not even have money for creche but he says he will pay.
Ma,I am not happy about this, its wrong on all levels. If I tell my mother this,she will never come to my house again for anything. In fact,she will never see my husband the same way again.
What should I do? Is this the kind of man I married? My husband has never given me any reason before to see him as a man who would make this kind of decision. He has said my mom should leave before on the 20th of this month…how do I even tell my mother?
My mom is already sensing something is wrong but I lied to her that its just stress. I don’t want to take my child to creche. I am so angry. What do I do?
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