My name is Pricilia(not real name). I am a mother of three children and I am currently pregnant with my fourth child. I am very unhappy in my marriage at this time and I need your help and advice.
Ever since I got married to my husband,I have been noticing several behaviors that I dont like. We have been married for five years now. I met my husband as a virgin. We are not doing very well financially because my husband is a Driver and the pay is very poor. He was also doing his part time degree course. So all the money I made from my petty trading went into providing for the family and assisting my husband with his schooling. I did not plan to have a fourth child but I guess mistakes happen. I almost aborted this pregnancy when I found out. This is because,we can hardly even feed ourselves at the moment not to talk of having another extra mouth to feed.
With all these challenges,my pain is that my husband is always flirting with women. Women from his part time schooling and some of his passengers as a Taxi Driver. Many times I see text messages that his female friends send to him. When I confront him,he just starts shouting at me. One time,I reported him to my pastor in church and when we got home,he beat me up for reporting him. I am tired and I do not know what to do. His behavior is constantly giving me high BP. We dont have enough money yet he keeps on flirting with other women. I wonder what these women see in him.
The latest trouble now is that my husband’s younger sister came to stay with us in our one room apartment as she is doing her IT in Lagos. This girl never ceases to taunt me. Instead of her to help me talk to her brother,she says that if I complain again that the family will send me back to my parents in the village. One day,this girl locked me out of our house. She said I am the reason that the brother is not prospering. Ma,I slept outside on the corridor with my seven months pregnancy. I don’t know what I have done to warrant such a treatment from my husband and his sister. I work very hard to provide for him and our family without him supporting me,yet he continues to cheat and me and they have threatened to send me packing from my marriage as soon as I give birth to my fourth child.
Please ma,what should I do? I am afraid to tell anyone for fear that he will beat me up again. I need your prayers and the help of people in this group. God bless you ma.