Good Morning ma,
Please post and keep anonymous. I been dating this girl for like a year. I love her,she is smart and very funny and I really like her. But ma,there are some things about her that I need counsel about.
My girl spent alot of time abroad so she is quiet exposed. She speaks her mind and I like that about her but sometimes,I worry that she is too forward. I am a cool guy but I don’t like disrespected.
Like normal couples,we have arguments but then she argues without respect. I do not believe argument should be without respect. Like for example,she can be angry and raising her voice or pointing her fingers in my face.
That to me is unacceptable. She curses alot too. Using words like fuck fuck fuck…I know its normal abroad but here,in Naija..when a lady uses that alot,she is seen as not properly raised. To be fair to her,when I try to correct her,she tries to change but sometimes,she says I am trying to control her which I am not.
Another thing ma,she wears beads on her waist and she has a tattoo of an owl on her back. To her,tattoos mean nothing and I understand that its permanent so there is nothing she can do to remove the tattoo.
My concern is that,she actually behaves like someone possessed sometimes. Especially when she is angry. I asked her why she wears waist band,she says its what she likes but I don’t like it. She says I am being a baby and bush.
My family have met her and they noticed she is a bit wild and loud. My father actually asked me if I can cope with her. I said yes but at the back of my mind,am wondering if I can actually.
My mother is a reserved woman,when she saw the tattoo on her back,she was really worried and told me that I should be careful. Why an owl for a tattoo…of all things…an owl..my mother is thinking she maybe connected to something spiritual…I don’t know sha
We talk about her behaviors severally and she explains that its her upbringing but she is willing to change but then,I am not seeing much change cos when I ask her sometimes,she accuses me of trying to control her when I bring up an issue she said she would work on. I don’t know whether we should just break up…but I love her so much.
Please advise me…
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