My name is TJ. I run a successful parts business. I grew up with nothing cos my parents were very poor. This affected my education. I did not got to school. But when I came to Lagos to learn the spare parts business,I made up my mind to go to school even if its just to get primary six or WACE certificate.
It was not easy. At 18 years,I started learning how to read and write. I did my WAEC at age 25. I stopped after WAEC to focus on my business which I just started after my apprenticeship.
I took my time to build my business to where it is now. Its a multi million naira business by the grace of God. I used to meet alot of girls.I dated some but none met my eyes. I knew many of them were just after my money. I wanted a humble woman who would take care of our home.
Last year,I started Part time studies. Again it was not easy cos I have a big business to manage. But I am determined to finish at least get an OND. Its not because I need a job cos I am already a millionaire with workers.
This year,in March,I met this girl. Very pretty and humble. Very friendly and a good christian. Actually she came to buy parts from our shop and one of our workers tried to trick her and she demanded to see the management.
It turns out that she is an Engineer. I was very impressed meeting a lady engineer. She schooled abroad and has 2 masters in Mechanical engineering. That really intimidated me but we became friends as she kept in touch and we were always chatting.
She invited me to her birthday in April. We connected from there and started dating. I love her so much. She is a peaceful and humble and nice lady. I want to marry her. She is my kind of woman.
My only concern is that,being a girlfriend is different from being a wife. Will she be a humble wife when she has masters and PHD?…will she be humble to her husband who barely has OND?
Right now,she seems cool but what if she changes. I have shared this my fear with my family and they seem to agree with me that she may not be the right woman for me. I am the type of man that believes that if your husband can provide for the wife,then the wife should stay at home and manage the home.
If its the money,I don’t mind paying her 1 million every month apart from home keeping money. I tried to have that discussion with her. She told me her dream is to be one of the best female Engineers in the world.
But she loves me and will like to marry me. So its clear that out parts may be different. But I cannot dream of breaking up with her. So they say marriage is about compromise. I am ready to compromise to be with her.
My worry is that,I hope I do not later regret it….she is too smart and too educated ….will our marriage work? So far things are going fine. She is not after my money cos she herself is comfortable. We spend time together alot….but….I dont know what the future will be like…
What if she changes….what if I change …what if…please advise.