I am Joe (Not real name). My fiancee and I are happy. I met her two years ago in Benin. She was working as a Nurse. I admired her zeal and passion for life and helping people. I used to love travelling down to see her every other week but I was finally able to convince her to move down to Lagos as our wedding plans drew near.
In the course of our relationship,she told me that Her mother died when she was little. She never really knew her mother. Even my mother felt very maternal to her as a result of this.Last week was our marriage introduction. We traveled to my wife’s place in Edo state for the introduction. All went well.
But as we rounded up the traditional rites. A relative from my fiancee’s family,Someone who is related to her step mother,called my uncle aside and told him that my fiancee’s mother is alive but that the family is hiding her from the public.That she is sick and locked up in a psychiatric home.
I called my Fiancee and told her what we found out. She was shocked and asked to speak to me alone. I saw she was shaking.That was when she broke down and confessed that her mother is alive but has mental illness and epilepsy. That the shame of it made the family keep her away in solitary mental home.
I was angry that she did not tell me. She said some of her suitors before me walked away when they found out. So she was afraid I would. Yes,she have been afraid but still is wrong and she betrayed my trust. Plus,her mother’s type of illness could be hereditary….who knows…is it still safe to go on with my marriage plans?
Of course,my family is devastated and divided on the matter. My mother thinks I should forgive my fiancee…but my father and Uncles feel that I should let go. This is because they agree with me that mental illness and epilepsy is hereditary. I made my research,its is genetic….This is a hard decision for me. I need your advise everyone.
I wish she told me from the beginning….some people even think that this may be spiritual knowing what people from my fiancee’s state are involved with spiritually. Please help me with prayer and advice on what steps to take next.
God bless you all.