Please hide my identity. I am a 31 year old lady. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost three years. I met my guy when I was having issues in the bank one day.I had come to do some transactions and the delay was going to make me loose my flight. I was very hysterical. I asked to see the bank MD,a young man came out and said he is the P.A to the MD….long story short..the P.A ended up exchanging numbers with me.
We kept in touch for a few weeks,it became romantic and we met afterwards. We liked each other…and started dating. All these while,I thought he was a P.A to a bank MD. We dated for almost seven months before he told me he was actually the MD. I was shocked!….He was just 34. His father is a popular business mogul. They own banks among other businesses.
He revealed that my love for simple life and that I was non materialistic was what made him fall in love with me. His job as a bank MD is tedious and he meets the high and mighty in society..as well as endless women trying to get his attention. Our relationship has not been without flaws but somehow,we managed to pull through…its hard sometimes I must confess…
In November last year,he finally proposed to me and I said yes. I was so happy he proposed. But I was really concerned cos the proposal was so quiet and simple. I mean,I am not materialistic but a girl’s dream is to have a near perfect proposal. It was just me and him,one day after he dropped me off from work…he turned to kiss me good night and he popped the question with a ring in his hand…no fun fare…no friends or family to witness…nothing…he didn’t even go down on his knees..I was happy and a little sad but I said yes because I loved him…
I was hoping to tell him how I felt but again…I did not want him to feel like I was after his money…I always make excuses for him….but now,my wedding is coming up in April and he says he wants a quiet wedding…just us and our parents….we argued before he agreed to allow our siblings come… And he wants it in Ghana (not real location but an African country) so no one can find out…I mean,I know he is a society man and his family is widely known in the country and all over the world…why on earth does he want a quiet wedding?
Not many even know we are engaged!…Is he hiding me?Is he ashamed of me?…Much as I do not want to be extravagant…I want a real wedding with my friends in attendance…he refuses..he in fact gets angry when I bring it up….I thought wedding and wedding planning is the woman’s job? The only thing I was allowed to do is pick out my dress….every other thing he says he has it covered cos he does not want any information about our wedding to leak.
I have asked him why the secrecy,he says he likes his private life to remain private…I am a Media presenter. I like a little fun and entertainment….why should I be confined by my husband to be into a lifestyle I am not used to? He is a cool guy,caring and all…however,I do not understand the reason for the secrecy. Frankly speaking…I am a bit worried that he is trying to marry me in silence…maybe there is something to hide or someone he does not want to know about it?
Please advice me…is this a deal breaker or should I just forget about it and play along?
From Anonymous LS Fan
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