Please advise me. I am in a relationship that has been going on for like a year now. Our mothers were friends. They reconnected about two years ago and they got talking and when her friend saw me,she was like wow,me and her son would be a perfect match.
Myself and her son were introduced and started dating. It felt weird at first but I discovered,myself and Mide had so much in common. We formed a quick bond quickly. Our mothers were happy. But not for too long.
A few months later,I started noticing that Mide’s mom started giving me attitude. I think that came from when Mide and I decided to stop letting her interfere. She is the type of mother who wants to know everything about her son’s relationship.
At first,I was telling her. It seemed sweet but later it became over bearing. Mide and I decided to keep her off and she stated giving attitude. That attitude she passed to my mom. My mom became worried and asked me to be careful.
Now,Mide’s mom is trying to feed him with stories about me and my mom. She says that I am not fit to marry her son because my mom is a slot. My mom slept with someone’s husband and she does it all the time.
This is a lie. Even though my parents had an affair,she told me my father did not tell her he was married. He lied to her. She discovered when she was pregnant with me. He later lied that he was getting divorced. That is how my mom stayed with him until she had my second sister but when it became clear he was not leaving his wife,she left him.
All these I told Mide when we started dating so Mide did not believe his mom’s allegation.But his mother kept meddling and doing everything in her power to destroy our relationship.
Instead od breaking us,this made our relationship stronger. Infact,Mide proposed to me against his mother’s wish. His mother has rained all sorts of insults on me and my mother. But Mide and his family love me. That keeps me going.
Until few weeks ago. I was visiting Mide and just chilling when my phone ran. I took the call and later dropped the phone. A male colleague had just called me and we had a chat about work.
When I dropped,Mide said who is he. I said a colleague na. He said I sounded so excited to speak to him. I was wondering where this was coming from. Mide demanded to see my phone and I felt that was wrong of him. Why will he suspect me? If I had anything to hide,will I take the call in front of him?
He insisted on seeing my phone but I refused. He became suspicious the more and started to try to take my phone. I struggled to let him have it. We struggled until he got the phone from me and he went straight to the toilet and threw my phone into the toilet.
I was so angry and surprised. That was our biggest fight ever. He made statements like if I want him not to believe what his mom says about me and my mom,I have to be completely honest and let him see my phone anytime he asks.
Those words hurt me so bad. I told him to go to hell. I do not need him to believe me. I know I am not doing anything wrong and for even doubting me and throwing my iphone in the toilet made me really angry.
We promised not to allow his mother get in between us but it looks like she may have already. I left him and told him it was over. We didn’t speak for 2 days. I cried and mourned our love. By the 3rd day,he came to beg me and apologize.
He has been begging and apologizing. But now,I am scared of what I had seen. I had seen him get so angry to the point of destroying an expensive phone. What else is he capable of doing?
My mom said I should have allowed him see my phone when he asked. Is that not a sign of trust issues?Did I do wrong for not allowing him see my phone? Will I have to continue trying to prove my innocence?
I love Mide so much. No doubt. He loves me too. Should I give him a second chance? Will ever change and be like his mom later? I am scared and I need advise. Scared of loosing Mide and scared of making a mistake.
Joke (Not Real name)