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My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. He proposed 3 months ago and I said yes. My only issue is that this guy is always broke. It was not always like this. When we first met,he was ok. He had a good paying job but he lost it
He then decided to go into business.Said he does not want to work for anyone. So,he started a dry cleaning outfit. I felt that would not be able to sustain him but I did not want to discourage him. I also do not want to be seen as that girl that is money conscious.
For the past two years,this business has not picked up. I don’t know what the problem is. Whether its that he is not having customers or he is not managing his finances well. He does not tell me anything about the business.
Since that time,our relationship arguments has always been about money. He is a good guy but he never has money on him. He does not spend on me. Instead,am the one spending. Even on my birthdays,he will not buy anything meaningful.
Well,I have been thinking that he should start looking for a job but he says I should give him till March next year. That if nothing changes,then he will start looking for a job. Now,just last week Friday,I got an alert of 200k withdrawal from my ATM card.
I was surprised cos I left my ATM card with him to help me withdraw some money.When I asked him why he took 200k without my approval,he said its for him to buy some mataerials and machine for his business. That he knows I will not give it to him if he asked me.
I was very upset and yes,I would not have given him the money…maybe I would have given him like 50k or at most 100k…not 200k…that is almost all I have in that account. I am very upset about this and I want to break up with him. I don’t trust his business sense…he has no business sense and certainly no financial sense.
He is saying he will pay me back before that March. I am so upset ma. Should I break up with him now or wait to collect my money in March before breaking up? I suspect if we break up now,he will never pay me back…but how do I remain in a relationship like this for another 3 months?
I really do not want to be seen as a girlfriend that broke up with a guy because he was down financially but this guy is not doing well with his business ….he needs a job…not a business….and I have to look out for my future. Why will he take money without my consent…is this how he will be doing if we get married?
Please advise me…
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