Merry Christmas to you and your family. I really want to thank you for what you are doing through this platform. I have been on the platform for almost a year and I have been really blessed by being here. I am 36 years old and by God’s grace,trusting God to find my life partner. I am working and independent but the hustle to settle down is not easy.
I been in a few failed relationships and I have tried not to loose hope. I also have tried some online relationships that were not to my taste. I finally realized that these online relationships do not work. Most of the guys just want to use you,that’s all.
A few months ago,I met someone on your platform,he is one of your frequent commentators. He sounds mature and spiritual. He chatted with me and we became friends. It turns out that he too is single. I live in Uyo while he is in Benin. We chatted for a while and he decided to travel and come and see me cos it looks like we were already getting attached.
So,he came to see me in Uyo about three months ago. He was really nice looking and we clicked. He spent the day with me and left the next day. After the visit,our relationship became more official. It was like we were inseparable. Every day ,every hour,we were in constant communication.
All was well until he asked me for a loan,few weeks after he came to see me. I was surprised. Fine,we like each other but for him to ask me for such a loan …took me aback. He asked me for 300k to use to buy things for his business this Christmas( he is a business man). I told him I could not come up with that kind of money. He said ok. But after that,he started avoiding me. He would call less or check up me less.
A month later,he then said if I could borrow him 150k cos he had raised 150k and he is asking me for the balance. I told him I could not give him that kind of money. He became angry and said there was no need for us to be in a relationship if I cannot help him when he is in financial need. That he has seen me in Uyo and he knows that I can borrow him that kind of money.
Even if I could,somehow,I feel that our relationship is too young for me to be borrowing him that kind of money. Besides,its just a relationship…not marriage. I do not believe in borrowing a boyfriend money. Frankly,a boyfriend should not be asking a girlfriend for money. It should be the other way round.
So because of this,he stopped talking to me. I feel bad. I miss him alot. He used to be the first person I talk to in the morning and the last person I hear his voice before I go to sleep. I do not know if he is testing me with this loan request. But I also do not want to be taken for granted. Our relationship is barely five months altogether. I am trying to be careful not to be made a fool of at the end of the day.
Anytime I see him comment on the group, my heart skips. I know I love him..I want to ask him to give me another chance but I do not know if that is the right thing to do…I need your advice ma.
Thank you for your time.
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