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My Boyfriend Wants To Marry Me Secretly:Please Advice!

Hello LS,

I am 22 years old Ghanaian. I lost my mother at birth,so I do not know her. My father got married when I was 3 years old. I was raised by my step mother and my father until my Father died in an accident when I was 12 years old.

Stella (my step mother) tried . But she always treated her children better than me. I went through alot of hardship until I went to the university in Nigeria. I have relatives in Nigeria.I go back to Ghana during the holidays.

Last year,when I got home,I met my step mother’s lover. A much younger man than her. Very attractive too. He did not like the way my Stepmother was treating me,so he was nice to me.

Unfortunately,he likes me too. And I really did not plan it but I like him cos he is very nice to me. He became the reason I came home for holiday. He visited me in school too. He eventually broke up with my step mother because we became serious.

We hid our relationship from her. Right now,I am pregnant for him. He loves me and wants to marry me. The issue is,how do we tell my step mom. She would never agree to us being married. And she may never let me get my inheritance from my father’s will.

My step mom is the guardian of my inheritance from my Dad which is alot of money. That money becomes mine when I turn 30 years old.So my boyfriend wants us to keep our marriage a secret until then.

In my heart though,I fear if I am making the right decision. Having a baby is one thing,getting married and keeping it a secret is a huge pressure on me.

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My only relative here in Nigeria that knows about us, does not approve of our marriage because my boyfriend dated my step mother. I am even afraid that she will tell my step mother if she finds out we eventually got married.

What should I do?

Anonymous LS Facebook fan


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  1. Hello,

    Dating your step mother’s boyfriend was a wrong move. Even if they were broken up.

    As it is,there is a pregnancy involved…and if you both genuinely love each other…tell your family about it and ask for their forgiveness. No need to hide and wed secretly. Do the right thing.

    As for not getting your inheritance,you should get a lawyer when that time comes. I do not think she can stop you from getting what is yours when the time comes.

    All the best.


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