Dear Lively Stones,
I am newly married. I dated my husband for almost 2 years. Before I met my husband, I was in a brief affair with my boss at the office. I regret that affair till date. So,I try to block it from my mind. I try not to think about it.
Maybe that is why I did not mention it to my husband when we were dating. Unfortunately,that has come to bite me. I still don’t know how my husband found out. I have been telling him to tell me but he says its not relevant.
Apparently,someone told my husband that I had something with my boss. He asked me about it and I could not deny it. I told him it was before I met him and I regret it that is why I never brought it up to him.
My husband was very upset. He said I should have told him cos I just made him look like a fool. My boss was at our wedding,if he knew,he would not have allowed that. I told him I am sorry,I been begging him since. Now,my husband said I have to quit the job. That the only way he will believe that I am truly over my boss is if I quit.
My husband wants me to be a stay at home wife now. He said he never trusts women who work and the fact that even me have had a history with my boss,that its proof that women should not work.
I told him he is being too extreme and he said I should choose either between our marriage or my job. I know he is upset but asking me to quit my job over an affair that happened over three years ago is just childish. He is simply over reacting. I cannot also be a stay at home wife. My parents did not send me to school to be a house wife.
To make matters worse,he is now giving me attitude. He has asked me to turn in my resignation before the end of the month. Much as I love my husband and will do anything to keep my marriage,I am beginning to fear that he has such a jealous spirit and will do anything when he feels jealous.
Suffice to say,my job pays way better than his. We both rely heavily on my salary. I tried to reason with him that perhaps I should ask for a transfer,maybe to a different branch from my current boss.He refused out rightly. Saying he cannot ever trust me if I insist on working in this company.
I am confused and don’t know what to do. I have called our family members to try to speak to him but he has maintained that is his stand…either I quit and stay at home or the marriage is over. Please advice me.
Juliet (Not real name)