I need your help and prayers. I am a married woman with three children. I married my husband eight years ago. Initially,my family did not give their consent to the marriage. This is because my husband came from a different religious background than mine.
When we started dating,my husband told me it doesn’t matter what religion we practice. That he will even join me to be attending church. And during our dating,he used to come to church with me. Eventually we got married in church.
All has been well with us until last year. I noticed my husband’s strange behaviors. He started to come home late. And he would say he is tired when I want him to make love to me. I started suspecting something was wrong. I began to pray and frankly speaking,its like the more I prayed,the more things seemed to get worse.
He of course,stopped going to church and began to complain that my prayers were disturbing him. My church people said it was spiritual war fare. I fasted 14 days,21 days…I prayed and went to mountain.
Well,early this year,my husband came and told me that he wants to marry a second wife. That his religion accepts more than one wife. I cried and cried. I felt I was truly deceived y this man. But I listened to advice and stayed in my marriage while my husband brought in a second wife into our home.
Of course,he stopped sleeping with me. He hardly spoke to me. I will be in my room hearing their moans as they made love. I cried and cried. Since February this year,it has been turmoil. I cannot take this anymore. I refused to leave but right now,I think I have tried.
This is no longer a marriage. I have been deprived s*xually. I have been neglected. My children are being treated like strangers in their father’s house. This new wife is mean. She disrespects me and my husband supports her. He even said he made a mistake to marry me.
What am I still waiting for? I want to leave …I only know it will e difficult as my job cannot sustain me and my children with the lifestyle they are used to. But I am ready to endure anything. My parents feels so angry with me for disobeying them initially.
My pastor however is telling me not to divorce as divorce is a sin. That polygamy is not a crime.I want to be a believer but right now,I cannot remain in this hell hole called marriage. Please advice me…I am fed up and loosing my life here…
Again,the new wife is pregnant…the emotional pain is too much for me to bear…seeing another woman bearing a child for my husband….I cannot take it anymore.
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From Stella (Not real name)
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