My wife is a fan of your blog so am using this avenue to beg her. When we met three years ago,she was a sweet girl. Always humble and kindhearted. I knew she used to get jealous anytime she suspected me of flirting with other girls. That made her always leave me back then, She would get annoyed and stop talking to me. I was in love with her so I knew I needed to quickly marry her before I blew it with her. I also thought marriage would assure her of my love for her.
In less than a year after we got married,the arguments started heating up. I really thought being married will make her calm down,at least,she is the one I decided to marry out of the many girls around me. But she still got jealous and that was always causing argument between us. I told her not to worry about other ladies,I married her. I may be friendly to other ladies but I know what I have at home,I respect her,abi that’s why I married her now.
But no,my wife will always want to check my phone,go through my social media and be attacking girls on my page. What you cannot do is stop ladies from coming for a man. That’s how God made us. But I will not be worried if I were her. I have told her many times but she will not hear. She would shout at me and me,I am a quiet guy,I don’t like shouting. If I go out and come back late,she will quarrel and shout and all kinds of drama that I don’t like.
This her attitude became worse when she was pregnant,she would be saying that I am sleeping with women cos she is pregnant. Well,am not a saint,I hang out sometimes in the club and with friends cos that’s just me. She met me like that. I cannot just change like that. I am a very happy person so I socialize a lot. I tried to ignore her ranting during her pregnancy cos I didn’t like the drama anymore. I slept at my friend’s place a couple of times cos I was just scared of going home to an angry pregnant wife. This friend of mine is a bachelor and his fiancee does not give him this much drama. My She complains of me being insensitive and all. I tried to stay with her but she was just too dramatic. Always crying and saying I don’t love her,I am not sensitive,etc. What does she even want from me? Is she not the one driving me nuts now?
Last month,her mother came to Lagos to see us. I was happy cos I thought her mother will help her to calm down especially cos she is pregnant. But I was surprised,before I came back one day,she and her mother have moved out of my house. I was really in shock. Is her mother not supposed to be a peace maker? Why will she come and take my wife away from me,even with my baby that she is pregnant with? I called and her mother answered me that she will not allow her daughter to return to me unless I swear that I will change.
This made me really angry and I cut the phone on the woman cos I was so upset. Its almost one month now,I have not spoken to my wife or know how she is doing. She is due this month and her mother wont let me see her or call her. This makes me think that my wife’s anger issue is hereditary. I mean,see how angry her mother is with me and making my wife leave her marriage with her pregnancy.
I have been sending text messages and begging her but I wont lie,most times I wonder what have I even done wrong? Most guys have done far worse than me and their wives still love and respect them. I have not impregnated any other woman. I don’t intentionally flirt but I like women,I cant control women from flirting with me na? What does she want me to do? I should wear a sign and say: Women please I am married,stay off? Even these women,when they see wedding ring on your finger,that’s when they even do more to get you.
Honestly,I didn’t know marriage is like this. Am I going to be in prison now cos I am married? So I am never allowed to talk to other women now? Why cant my wife be reasonable? I have given here assurance by marrying her yet she is still not satisfied. My mother even wants me to divorce her cos she never really liked her. But here I am,still begging her to return. I want to be with her when she gives birth to our baby. Everybody please help me beg her. I want to do better and be a better husband but I also need her to allow me to breathe.
I will take any advice from you people. I know she will read this when you post it,just use my initials alone,not my full name.
Thank you all.
H. B. P
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