This is a follow up from a story we ran a few weeks ago. Click here if you missed that story. Kindly read and share your advice and thoughts. This dear lady will be reading your responses.
My husband is good and I have decided to deal with my situation joyfully so we are no longer having issues at all. I am trying my best to let go of all the hurt and anger and he is financially responsible recently.
But I still have some issues bothering me that I don’t know how to deal with them I don’t if wouldn’t mine if share them with you.
There two issues but let me start with my son.
I have made up my mind not to quarrel with my husband because few weeks back it’s like we quarrel per second billing because I was overclouded with anger. If I try to discuss something important it turns to quarrel and it was frustrating my life so I vowed I will never make trouble with him no matter how hurt I feel and I have actually maintained it almost a month now, in fact I hardly discuss anything or call him again.
All I say to him is that we need money and sends without hesitation. Even though it is not really easy for me but I am trying my best to keep to it.Now I need to discuss my son with him but I don’t if I should or I should just ignore him and keep doing it myself.
My son is a very good boy but he seems to do better when his father is around than when he is not, he does his chores very diligently when his dad is around but with me we I have to talk and talk and even flog before he does his work..
Now I need to talk to my husband to assist me in training this boy by calling him often to talk to him so that that fear he has for him can continue even in his absence but my fear is that I don’t know if it will turn to another fight.
Another issue I have is s*x
I made a decision never to cheat on my husband even in his wickedness towards me and I have kept it for many years now in the midst of so many temptations but recently I have been having serious urge for s*x unlike before and such ideas are crossing my mind desperately.
I have thought of masturbation, I have thought of dating someone else, I have even discussed my feelings with my husband before but we almost quarreled over it and I decided to let the sleeping dog lie.
Right now I am confused and in a dilemma, he comes home once in a year or two. He came last Dec I don’t know if he is coming this year or next because before this last Dec he came last 2016.
I just need those that have experience this kind of situation to tell me if there is or are other ways we can deal with this kind of situation.