When I was dating my wife,for almost three years,there was no issue we had that we could not resolve. I loved the hardworking and very supportive woman that she was. Of course,there were issues here and there,most of which were caused by me. I tried to stay faithful but girls always flocked around me because of my job.
Please do not get me wrong,I do not flirt but I get alot of male attention. I work in entertainment,it comes with the terrain. I only made her know that she has to always trust me. However,as soon as we got married,my wife began to display such anger and mistrust for me that I never saw in her during our dating days.
She started quarreling and heckling me at the slightest suspicions around me. Coming back home from work became a dread for me. she would scream and shout and say all sorts of things,calling me out when I come back late. Coming back late has always been my thing,I hang out and network with people to may patronize my business at that time.
Life became miserable very quickly. We fight and call each other names. Saying she regrets marrying me. I have told her to divorce but she will begin to cry and call me names for deceiving her into marrying me. Sometimes,I wonder why I never saw this aggressive part of her all through before marriage.
Sometimes,she will behave and ask for forgiveness for her behavior. That she will change but she never does. She blames me for making her have anger issues. She now developed high blood pressure and blames it on me. I have told her family to come and take their daughter….they said I am wicked…is it by force…..
What kind of life is this?
In summary,I regret my marriage. I have tried to work things with her. Her people always support her. They say as a married man,I should change my ‘ways’…my ways?,,,meaning my career? …why you think marriage can change a man beats me. It has become emotional abuse now. She is accusing me of abusing her emotionally by making her cry and unhappy.
I am also sad and unhappy. Its been three years yet no child. Some say a child will change us but I do not believe that. It will make things worse. How do we even make a baby when all we do is fight? Now,she is the one making me loose interest in s*x with her but she goes around saying I don’t sleep with her because I have mistresses.
Mind you,she has never caught me sleeping with anyone. She embarrassed me several times by sending stinkers to my female clients. The one that broke the camel’s back was when she came to my workplace to start shouting. I was very embarrassed. Like,I knew this woman for three years …what the hell happened to her?
My mother tried to counsel her but she shouted at her for supporting her spoilt son. Later she called to cry and apologize saying she is fed up….Oya leave na…she has refused. As for me,I love my job. I always have been in entertainment since I was a teenager. I cannot become a reverend and avoid people just to please my wife.
For the first time,I very tempted to sleep with someone else cos I have been neglected by my wife and I have needs. I do not want to cheat on my wife ….should I file for a divorce?
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