Good day ma’am,
I am 27 years old . I am currently serving in one of the eastern states of Nigeria. I met a fine young man here and I fell in love with him. I have never been so in love with a person like this. He treats me very well,makes me laugh,good chemistry and he wants to marry me.
The only problem is,he does not have a job yet. He is 29,a graduate but no job. So,he drives a keke (tricycle) to sustain himself but he does not make so much money. He says his dream is to make music but its very hard to make it in the entertainment industry. The small money he makes,he puts into studio sessions to make music.
I really want to be with him but I feel like his choice of career will not be ok for us to get married and live by. And,I am being honest,its not like his voice is that good but he will say that big musicians like Davido and Wizkid do not have good voices. As I am,apart from my allowee,nothing is coming for me and I would like to get married before I am 30 years old. I do not know if by that time he will be ready to settle down if he has not yet made it musically.
Another thing is,I try to tell him that we should not be having s*x all the time because I got pregnant and had to abort it. He will refuse to use condom and says he cannot hold himself. I cannot continue to live like this. If I get pregnant again,I am afraid of having another abortion.I want a home with this man but he is still struggling financially….
I told him to try and get another job ..at least,to do something that can bring him money before his music pays off but he refused…saying he wants to stay focused on making music …meanwhile,this music is not getting anywhere for now…he keeps saying I should have faith and believe,that something big will soon come out of his music…that is how @face and co made it after several years ago.
I am extremely confused….should I leave him alone (which will be very difficult because we both love each other so much)…or should I be patient and wait for his music career to take off? How Do I avoid being pregnant if I wait cos he will not use Condom? What if he is not even ready by 3 years time,by the time I will be 30…I really do not want to wait until after 30 to get married..
Please help me….