Dear Lively Stones,
I need advice.I am a young man of 29 years old. I am in a relationship with a lady for about 8 months now. I like her and I actually feel that we could be getting married in the new future. She is calm and very nice.
But I have a problem. My immediate supervisor in the office is a very attractive young woman of the same age as me. I work in IT. She is smart and veryyyyyyyyyy attractive. We get along very well. She is like tomboy and her laughter gets me so much. She was formerly in another unit but was transferred to mine recently.
I must confess,I am seriously attracted to this lady at work. I think she knows too that I am drawn to her. The truth is,I have noticed that we both flirt around each other all the time. She says she is in relationship but I found out that she lied. She and the guy actually broke up before she was transferred to our unit.
When I found out she lied,I confronted her and she admitted to lying because she wanted to keep guys away from her. She was really heart broken from her ex. She says she is not ready for a relationship but every time we are around each other,the temptation is so great.
I literally feel my heart beat faster around her. She looks at me locked eyed several times in a day. One day,I had to take a walk from the office. I just couldn’t stand her breathing close to me. I like her alot. I chat with her regularly. The guys in my office are already teasing me to go for her but two things:
I still have a girlfriend;is my attraction for this lady good enough reason for me to dump my girl? My girl has nothing wrong to me. But the chemistry between me and this lady is not the same as my girl..
Secondly,this lady says she is not ready for a relationship. But she flirts with me. What is she trying to say,maybe she wants to just have a fling with me? I really am not that type of person…I would love to date her not sleep with her alone.
I am confused. Is this love or lust? I would like to explore that…but does that mean that I am cheating on my girl…should I break up or just test the waters first…please help me decide what is best. All I can think of is kissing my supervisor…
If you were in my shoes,what will you do?