I need advise from elderly people and those who have been married for longer period. I am married ,three years now,going to four. I love my husband. He is a good man. He works in an NGO and in church too helping to rehabilitate former drug addicts and prostitute. Its a calling for him and I admire that he loves to help people.
However,I get jealous sometimes and feel very scared when I see him with former prostitutes. I fear that some of them may try to lure him and I know he is a good man but I know some desperate women,when they see a good man showing interest in them,that could lead to something else.
The latest one that is seriously giving me concern is a 19 year old girl,who used to be a former wayward girl. This girl came to church and gave her testimony and she has been put under mentoring. I see how she lurks around my husband and I do not like it. She smiles at him like she is flirting and my husband has no idea. I have seen her and I have warned my husband who laughed and said,I should not let the devil put ideas into my head.
Last Sunday,after church,I went to visit some of our members who did not come to church so I left my husband behind in church,he was to come home when he was done with other activities he was involved with. I got home like around 3pm and met this girl from church in my house,talking with my husband. I wondered why she was there in my home. I called my husband aside to ask him and he said,she said she wanted to speak with him about something private. And she wants to know our house.
This girl calls me aunty but I do not trust her one bit. I told him,you know how I feel about this girl and he said nothing. I left them to make lunch,served them and left for house fellowship later around 6pm and this girl was still in my living room talking to my husband. I am very upset and I think it is disrespectful that this girl came to my home and my husband even allowed her to come and they were still talking when I left.
In annoyance,I sent my husband a text on my way to the house fellowship to send the later away but when I returned,I found out that she was in my house until almost 7pm. As I write,my husband has not told me what they discussed,I usually do not ask because its like he has a duty to keep his mentees secrets. He only tells me the ones he feels comfortable with.
Ma,I am feeling unhappy about this. I know in my guts that this girl means no good. I do not know how to tell my husband. He may not have any intentions but this girl definitely has. Should I talk to this girl and warn her or should I just trust my husband to do the right thing when she tries anything…I need advise…I really am feeling a certain way and I do not know how I will react when I next I see her…please advise me..