Good afternoon ma,
As we all know..its in a man’s nature to cheat except for the fear of God. I usually tell my hubby that ” am not telling you not to cheat o….but respect me not to let me even perceive the aroma of you cheating around me not to talk of in my face”As long as you do this….we are fine.
But recently…I noticed he chats on Facebook and even on Whats app with one particular lady named “Labake (name changed to protect the individual)”. And he’s well aware I know he’s doing this.
(We are Muslims,I know he is entitled to taking another wife if he chooses but he promised not to take another wife when we just got married. Even right now,he is not financially capable of taking another wife. What I cannot stand is him cheating in my face,its like a slap in my face)
Day before yesterday…this same lady called my hubby’s phone and I let it ring and didn’t even go close to picking it nor calling hubby to come and pick his call or take the phone to him wherever he is like I would have done.
Hubby came into the room and was like my phone is ringing and you didn’t bring nor call me to come and pick my call.I was angry but kept calm and after a while I said to him..so you expect me to bring your phone to you that your girlfriend is calling you? Am I that dumb to you?
So I told him that since he has decided to get himself a girlfriend, I think I need a boyfriend too so that the equation can be balanced. And since I haven’t been questioning him and piling him nor his phone….he shouldn’t police me too.
I use to tell him not to let me perceive if he wants to cheat. But he’s throwing caution to d wind. I guess he’s trying to emulate his immediate elder brother who’s not married but frolics with ladies. Even while he has a fiancee and introduction is before the end of the year.
Do u know?When my second daughter was like 8 months, then we were still in the family house…hubby brought a woman to d house and in our room. Squatted her for 6 days and I heard she was even using my towel..though I traveled to see my uncle.
And his mum and family were aware and didn’t caution him. After thinking about all this….and with what he did to me day before yesterday, I decided to put that question to him
And if I shouldn’t lie to you…am tired of the union, and my ticket to leaving him I guess is when I travel out of the country. Am never coming back to him.Whenever we having issues..out of anger, we tell ourselves we regret marrying each other.
Since day before yesterday…I have been giving him the silent treatment….am I right? Please advice your sister…note, the marriage is just 8 years with two children.
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