Good day all,
I want to remain anonymous. I met my husband online 3 years ago. He is based in Ukraine. We chatted online for 6 months and he proposed marriage to me. I was hesitant cos we had not met physically although we do Skype and all.
He now said when he sees me,he is coming to marry me. And true to his word,he came 7 months after our online dating. He and his family came for introduction and traditional marriage.
He stayed around for like a month after our traditional wedding. He left for Ukraine after. I discovered I was pregnant. So,the plan was that he would finally relocate to Nigeria the next year. I gave birth to a baby boy but he was not around.
My husband sends me money but he has never seen his son that is almost 2 years old. Since our traditional wedding,he has not come to Nigeria again. I asked why he did not relocate as he said.
He responded that he cannot relocate to Nigeria as it will not pay him. He is having a good job over there and cannot leave his job. I asked him what about me. He said he will try and be visiting us at least once or twice in a year.
I did not find this funny. This is not the type of marriage I want for myself. Where I will only see my husband once or twice in a whole year? I asked him why I cannot join him and he says its not necessary.
Now,I suspect he may have another woman over there and he just married me to bear him children in Nigeria. That is what everyone is saying. I feel betrayed and alone. I refuse to speak to him for over 5 months now.
This marriage feels so much like a trap. I fell for him and I want out. My family is asking me to be a little patient but patient for what na…when this man has openly told me that he will see me once or twice in a year.
This situation has pushed me to the arms of someone else. There is this man in his late 30s who is flirting with me. Nothing has happened between us but we make out. I may be falling for him and I want to divorce my absentee husband.
My father is in support but my mother wants me to be a little patient. I am 35 years old. How long will I continue to wait for an absentee husband? If you were in my shoes,what will you do? I need advise.
I need love in my life. Marriage is about companionship but my husband is not here. Its another man who is not my husband that is providing that companionship. I did not marry to just be wife on paper.
Even do we used to Skype initially but now,we don’t talk anymore. I need my husband by me and since he has refused to be with me,is it wrong for me to move on?
I do not want to cheat …but I have feelings…body no be fire wood.My child needs a father too. Please advise.
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