How do I forgive my spouse and heal completely so we can move on. I have been married for 8 years. Earlier on in my marriage,there was infidelity on my husband’s part. It was a very rough first 3 years of our marriage. We did not see eye to eye on alot of things.
Our marriage has been through several phases. We have been able to understand each other a little more. As it is,with prayers and counseling,we have been able to understand each other. We really want to make our marriage work.
My husband loves me and I love him. We have four children. But its so hard to truly forgive my husband and I think I need help. The reason is because,even though we have both forgiven each other for the hurt in the early part of our marriage,I found out that my husband kept some secrets from me.
The case of infidelity,I thought it was just with one person but I found out it was with several persons and that revelation has really crushed me. I truly want to move on. I forgive him but why does it still hurt so much?
Sometimes I suspect he is not yet completely faithful even though he says he is. I dont know if I can keep living in suspicion.
Please advise me.
Hauwa,(Not Real name)