I am Miriam (not real name) from Edo state. I am 38 years old. I am in love with a man whom I met a year ago. He loves me too and he is already talking marriage. But I am scared of marrying him because there is an issue on ground which must be tackled first.
Let me give you a little background. My mother’s family was involved in idols worshiping which spanned over several generations. I was told that all the females in the family were dedicated to the goddess of the sea. So,all first females born into the family were automatically priestesses of the sea. They were called Ogbanje.
My mother and my father were Christians however. The practice of idolism actually ended with my great grand parents I think.So far,I cant remember anyone still practicing that in our family except some very extended family members in the village. So I was born into a christian home,raised as a christian.
But my love life has been bad. Any man who I got involved with,something happens to him.I dated someone when I was 25 years to 29,he proposed to me. We were planning our wedding. He suddenly had an accident. He had to be flown abroad for treatment. That was the end of our relationship.
The above situation led my mom to prayers in some churches. I think someone gave her a prophesy that I have a spirit husband who will not allow me get married to any man until I am fully delivered. Then too,I used to have s*xual intercourse with a spirit man in my dreams .Many prayers and deliverance were done for me.
I remained single for a year before I met my husband when I was 31 years old. He is strong believer. Our marriage was ok until 3 months later. My husband became sick suddenly. It started with typhoid. It later progressed to Kidney failure under 4 months. We flew him abroad for kidney transplant. It was successful.He came back months later but he relapsed again after 7 months.
We took him to several specialist hospitals in the country. We spent so much money until we went broke. We sold our cars. Our lands. The family spent so much until there was nothing. We began to go from one healing home to another. From church to church. Four years later,he passed on.
By this time,we had lost everything. I was alone. I never enjoyed the marriage for a minute. I had no child from the marriage. I was so sad. After the burial,I returned home to my family. I thought my life was over. Who would want me at my age, I was a widow at 36. I tried to start life afresh and dedicated my life truly to God. Mark you,I am born again. I may not be perfect but I try. I fast and pray often too.
Well,last year, I met someone. We became friends. He is a divorcee with one child form his previous marriage. I love him. I told him my story. He does not care about my past. He believes we are children of God. I also believe God has saved me and delivered me. We decided to have a quiet wedding this year. I met his family,very lovely people.
Days later,the elder sister of my fiance told him that his ex wife had a dream that she saw that he was getting married. And that the woman he was getting married to was not God’s will for him. My fiance did not believe her. He said she was just jealous that he found someone to marry after moving on from her. Mind you,my fiance did not tell his family my story.
Well,I am happy that my fiance is backing me but I am a little shaken. I do not know how the ex wife will come and have such a dream. Call it fear from the past…I don’t know. I have been praying and fasting. I do not want what happened in the past to happen again. Maybe its truly not my destiny to be married. I know I am a new creation in Christ ,old things are passed away. But the bible also talks about sins of a man being passed unto his generations.
Maybe this is my lot. Should I call off this wedding? I do not want to loose another good man over the sins of my past generations. My mother has gone to various prayer houses for vision. They all say that I am free now. But this dream from the ex wife…..I am confused. I need advice.