I am very pained at what is going on. I do not know whether to blame corona or thank it for what is going on in my marriage. I have been married,going to be 7 years in June. My husband .He works really hard,we both do, so our life is majorly our career.
Somehow,we try to balance things especially for the sake of our children. I work in a media outlet company and he works in oil and gas. I love my husband. I never in my wildest dream think my husband was cheating on me. I knew we were not perfect but we were not having issues to the best of my knowledge.
From this week,my company told us to work from home but my husband was still going to work. I was worried every day that he was going to work cos everyday we kept getting scary updates as the situation kept getting worse all over the country.
By Tuesday, I chatted with a friend and was just sharing with her my fear for my husband still going to work…she was surprised to hear my husband was going to work. She said she has it on good authority that most oil and gas companies have closed since last week.
My friend called me back and confirmed it. I was confused. Maybe my own husband’s company was different? I asked him when he returned from work. He said not everyone is allowed to work from home,some people are still coming to work.
On Wednesday afternoon,I called his mobile line several times without any response. I called his office line,no response. That is when I remembered I saved his colleague’s boss no one time to wish him happy birthday.
I called the colleage,apologized for bothering him but I wanted to speak to my husband cos I couldn’t reach him on his mobile. The colleague was like,is he not with you…I said no. He said the office closed since Monday and has not seen my husband since then. I thanked him and dropped the phone.
My husband was lying to me…why? so where has he been going to if he is not going to work all these days? I did not say anything to my husband when he returned home around 9pm that day. I tried my best to keep calm.
Next day,as soon as my husband drove to work, I followed him from a distance and drove a few meters behind him. He drove to the Omole (not real location). I followed him until he stopped in front of a gate and got out. I watched him park his car,get out and the gate opened and some lady opened the gate and he got in.
I sat in my car for several minutes,shaking and confused. I did not know what to do. Do I stay and wait for him to come out or go to that gate and find out who is the person my husband is with. I got out. Went to the gate and knocked. A gateman opened.
I told him I was looking for the man who’s car is parked outside. I told him,the man dropped a wallet when he got out of his car. I wanted to deliver it to him in person. The mumu gate man didn’t even ask me plenty question…he just pointed to the flat and said…go there…na dia the oga dey.
I got to the flat. Still shaking. I rang the bell. And a lady opened the door. I looked at her and said to her,where is my husband? She recognized me and tried to gather herself but it was too late. I could see my husband coming out,already undressed in his boxers alone and when he saw me,ran back inside like a child…
I looked straight at this woman,shook my head and never said a word. I left in a hurry and drove back home where I cried a well full of tears. My husband came back around 11am. Trying to explain that nothing was happening,he was just chilling in a friend’s place. Both of them are working on a project,bla bla bla…
I told him I already called his colleague so I know he was not going to work. So,you went to a female business partner’s place to do business when everyone is on lock down? He sounded so stupid. He then broke down and said,forgive me. I cant lie to you. I have wronged you. I did something wrong.
How long has this been going on,who is this woman…she is a colleague, why her,…all he said was I am sorry,I made a mistake. What have I done wrong to deserve this? I am a good wife. I work hard to bring in money into the home,I gave you two children:boy and girl… I give you s*x when you ask. I cook…I dress fine…I still look good..what on earth did you start having an affair for….
My husband has since not being able to explain what is going on. clearly,an affair…but he is refusing to give me details and its driving me insane. He says no need for the details but he is wrong. I need to know…how do we move on if I do not know the details?
All I have been doing is cry since on Thursday. I don’t even know where to go to,in this lock down….I feel so pained,betrayed and alone. I told my pastor who called him several times but he did not pick up. I don’t understand him anymore.
Please how do we move forward if my husband does not want to talk about all the burning questions in my head?
Just like the virus,I feel these past few days have been a nightmare….I need your advise.