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13 Years Ago I Made A Horrible Mistake-Now She Wants My Help!

Hello madam,

Please hide my ID. I need advise fast. I may have gotten myself into some serious sh*t and its about to blow up in my face. About 13 years ago,my wife and I were arguing alot and having so many disagreements that led to a small breakup during our first year of marriage and within that short space of time,I made a terrible mistake that I thought I had put behind me for good.

During that break up,I started a short fling with one of her friends. It resulted to pregnancy. I convinced the girl to get rid of it which she did after a lot of begging. One of the things she said at that time was that she was afraid of abortion,she had not done it before. I promised her it will be ok.

She kind said if anything happens to her,I will be held responsible. I was stupid and desperate at that time. My wife and I reconciled later. That her friend faded away,life was good. I am happily married with 4 children now.

Until two years ago. This girl turns up out of the blues to start chatting me. That she is miserable. That she regrets every aborting for me years ago. I ignored her. She continued this throughout the year until last year when I blocked her. The next thing she does is start to send anonymous messages to my wife..in the message,she says things to my wife:like you will never be happy as long as I am sad…

I pretended not to know who she was when my wife sent me the message. I told her to forget about it. My wife,a prayer warrior,prayed and cursed her.  The next thing,she slides into my DM asking me to see her before she comes to reveal our secret to my wife. I told her to go ahead,…she has no proof.

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Next thing she goes…so you really think I had an abortion…you fool…!..For the first time,I realized my mistake 12 years ago. Like why did I not go with her for the abortion? I only gave her money for it…what if she never had the abortion? I am so scared right now.

Then I asked her what she wants..she says I should come see her….she gave me an address. I initially did not want to go but I wanted to see her for myself to make sure she was telling the truth. I went to see her in two weeks ago.. I got to meet her at a hotel room where she was dressed skimpily.

I told her if her plan was to get me to sleep with her a second time…then she is wrong. She said she is miserable. She was married but she couldnt give birth. That She thinks its because she had a child with me that she did not acknowledge…that God is punishing her for that.

She lied,had the baby and threw the baby away. I was like…so what do you want from me. She said…my sperm. That was when I knew I was dealing with a crazy person. She wants me to sleep with her or give her my sperm for an IVF so she can get pregnant.

This girl said she helped me save my marriage years ago and now she wants me to help save hers or she will destroy mine. I am lost for words…how do I even get out of this? How do I convince her out of this crazy idea that will definitely blow up in my face?

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And to think that I have a child someone in this world…I am definitely done for…I need some serious advise. I told her I was not going to father another child with her and she swears to let my wife know and she will find our child and bring her to me.

I have begged her to forgive me …ask for any other thing but she is adamant…what the hell am I supposed to do now?

 

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7 COMMENTS

  1. Then be the one to tell your wife,it was a fling,you were separated,you are a man and you had needs then,don’t let her trick you into another lie. Tell your wife before she does. Good luck

  2. Pls don’t make the same mistake twice.
    Go to ur wife and explain things to her, am sure she will understand though she might be hurt.
    And if the other woman gave birth to the child truly, she should bring the child for u to take care of, its better.
    U called her ur wife’s friend hmm
    She is indeed a betrayal.

  3. Confess to your wife and beg for forgiveness. Don’t you ever allow a blackmailer to ruin your life. Your life will be better if you confess to your wife, she won’t leave you. Beg her to join you to fight the blackmailer. Meee

  4. Hello Mister,

    There is only one way out: you have to tell the truth to your wife.

    This lady is sick…and desperate and this is a pure case of blackmail. If you keep playing with her and trying to hide this from your wife..it will get worse. She can even frame you saying,you are still having an affair with her…cos you met with her recently at a hotel.

    This may be very hard but speak to your wife …maybe a pastor or a mentor can be with you when speaking with her…to help the delivery of the message to her.

    No matter what your wife says or does…she is your best bet now to free yourself from this woman.

    Once your wife hears the truth from you and nobody else…it wont matter what that woman says.

    Worse case is: she will have to produce the child she claims she has for you and please make sure you do an independent DNA test to prove whatever child she says she has is truly yours.

    After all these,please work on your marriage…do everything in your power to your wife forgive you and heal through the pain and betrayal.

    Its going to be a long and tough road but if you stick with your wife and pray and beg her and fight for her heart again…you will all be fine in the end.

    I truly wish you all the best.

  5. U HV HEARD ENOUGH. THERE’S NO OTHER WAY OUT THAN TO LET UR WIFE KNOW BEFORE THAT WITCH STEPS IN. UR WIFE WILL OBVIOUSLY BE MAD AT U BUT WILL LATER SEE REASON TO SIDE WITH U AND SEND THAT DEMON WHERE SHE BELONGS TO. IT’S EXACTLY WHAT I WILL DO IF I’M THE ONE INVOLVED.

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